Is this LOuVE or Is it Infatuation?

Is this love or is it Infatuation?

This being a Valentines week I am trying to stick to the theme.

But i dont have and never had anything mushy to say about when it comes to LOuVE.

The very reason I am mentioning "love" AS "LOuVE" shows my lack of seriousness towards the underrated or for that matter over rated word.

Probably because I am too practical or too rational to the extent of being cynical when it comes to love.

So I am writing this basically to clear the misconception of most of you out there who think that

Love, Infatuation and Attraction are 3 different things.

One of these always gives birth to another.

I mean I have heard people falling in "love at first sight" and actually completing their quest for true love and on the other hand I have seen people taking their time to know each other and that time runs into years and years of unconditional commitment only to finally realize that it was just an INFATUATION. Ironic.

Why is there a confusion between these two highly over used and misinterpreted words?

I think everything starts with an infatuation.

Infatuation basically means "temporary" love of adolescent a foolish and usually extravagant passion love or admiration.

But that is what love is all about right? Foolish,immature

Many temporary infatuations make one long lasting love.

The very reason that draws you to a person makes you call, text, think, imagine, fantasize is because you are attracted to him or her due to some kind of infatuation.

You may be infatuated by looks, money, personality, kindness, humour.

So if you are not sure whether what you have between you and your partner is infatuation or love you will be wondering all your life.

And the only way you will come to know about it is if you eventually end up with him/her for the rest of your life and then you can tell the world with a sense of pride " oh! well it was unconditional pure love from the very start"

and god forbid if you break up tomorrow you will tell yourself " oh! well it was nothing but infatuation"

So if its infatuation there is nothing wrong it is meant to be like that.

And if its LOuVE trust me.. it is still a higher degree of INFATUATION.

What's In Store?

Who knows the answer to this question?

"Whats in Store?"

But what if you desperately want to find out "Whats in Store?" so that you can make some decisions based on that what do you do?.. just wait and watch till something magically appears and says this was in store or just take a risk go with the flow and discover what it was.

What will happen if you become impulsive and take a decision then and there and regret it later.. or what will happen if you try the safest road sit back watch and realized that you should have taken a decision long back. After all most of the troubles in life are because of saying "No" too soon or "Yes" too late.. or the other way round.

In the entire process of "worrying" about the future and thinking whats in store we are nothing but just stressing ourselves out.

Thinking seriously complicate things.

One thing that i learnt from THE SECRET or for that matter from movies like RANG DE BASANTI ,KAL HO NA HO .. or the PURSUIT OF HAPPYNESS.. was live for the moment you never know if this second might come back or no.There is no time like present.

People say take every day as it comes , I say take every fraction of a second as it comes.

I mean what do you mean when you say " I cant really see a future in this line or in this relationship or in this career"

You are not supposed to see the FUTURE because then you will be GOD.

Life is too short so dont second guess dont doubt the universe loves SPEED.

This quote from Grey's Anatomy defines life

"At some point of time you have to make a decision. Boundaries dont keep others out they fence you in. Life is messy thats how we're made. So you can WASTE your life drawing lines or you can live your life crossing them. If you are willing to take a CHANCE the view from the other side is SPECTACULAR."

So do what makes you HAPPY now. Do what makes you feel at peace with yourself now. Just Do it Now!!

Easier said than done right because what will make me really happy right now is a good trip to goa with friends but what i want to do is study for my exam which is in the FUTURE. So never works all the time but you have to learn how to make it work.

And to end all this I would again like to quote Benjamin Franklin " One today is worth two tomorrows."

After all if it is meant to be it will be. True.