Breaking Up. Simplified.

Breaking up is such a headache isnt it. Whether you are too desperate to break up with someone or you are so close to the person that breaking up is gona hurt you even more but then you got to do what you got to do.

Breaking up in the correct way is always difficult. The right words to choose, the correct tone, waiting for the perfect situation , forcing that situation to arrive so you land up in some petty fight and swoop in with your break up line the same way you swooped in with your pick up line the first time you met that person.

It has to be taken care that you are not mean, you dont hurt your gf/bf and also make sure at the same time that he/she was the reason of the break up and not you and you were only forced into it.

Keeping all this aside i just came across a cool advertisement which shows the new age break up.

Its such a tension free no load no stress chilled out break up ever seen.

Have a look.

I cant help but watch the ad everytime it comes during those IPL breaks and smile everytime and wonder if only life would have been so simple. The couple are so into each other a few seconds before and immediately after that comes the break up line " You dont love me anymore"

I love the acting by the cute girl in the advertisement. The initial innocent surprise and then the self realization expression after giving the break up line a lil thought and then deciding to be "freinds" only to "move on" in split second.

The Universe loves speed so dont second doubt when in doubt. So much time is wasted in breaking up and the moving on. If only universally this could be the norm acceptable by every couple half the emotinal atyachaar is already woosh and gone!!

Some Standard Break Up lines

1.The Reversal - " Its not you, Its me. You are just the best person anyone can get. I dont deserve you."

2.The Forced Fight- " You know what pisses me off the most about you. This fuckin attitude of yours. You think I cant survive without you."

3.The Self Sacrifice Suicidal - "Well if you're so mad at me why dont you just dump me"

4.The Destiny's Storeroom - "If it is meant to be we will find each other again SOMEDAY. But for now lets call it off"

5.The Trade-Off - " Our relationship hasnt been good for a while now. I think we shall take a break and see other people"

6.The Boredom Syndrome - "There is no spark, no spice no connection left between us. I guess what we had between us was just plain infatuation"

MOVE ON Man..!!

Is this LOuVE or Is it Infatuation?

Is this love or is it Infatuation?

This being a Valentines week I am trying to stick to the theme.

But i dont have and never had anything mushy to say about when it comes to LOuVE.

The very reason I am mentioning "love" AS "LOuVE" shows my lack of seriousness towards the underrated or for that matter over rated word.

Probably because I am too practical or too rational to the extent of being cynical when it comes to love.

So I am writing this basically to clear the misconception of most of you out there who think that

Love, Infatuation and Attraction are 3 different things.

One of these always gives birth to another.

I mean I have heard people falling in "love at first sight" and actually completing their quest for true love and on the other hand I have seen people taking their time to know each other and that time runs into years and years of unconditional commitment only to finally realize that it was just an INFATUATION. Ironic.

Why is there a confusion between these two highly over used and misinterpreted words?

I think everything starts with an infatuation.

Infatuation basically means "temporary" love of adolescent a foolish and usually extravagant passion love or admiration.

But that is what love is all about right? Foolish,immature

Many temporary infatuations make one long lasting love.

The very reason that draws you to a person makes you call, text, think, imagine, fantasize is because you are attracted to him or her due to some kind of infatuation.

You may be infatuated by looks, money, personality, kindness, humour.

So if you are not sure whether what you have between you and your partner is infatuation or love you will be wondering all your life.

And the only way you will come to know about it is if you eventually end up with him/her for the rest of your life and then you can tell the world with a sense of pride " oh! well it was unconditional pure love from the very start"

and god forbid if you break up tomorrow you will tell yourself " oh! well it was nothing but infatuation"

So if its infatuation there is nothing wrong it is meant to be like that.

And if its LOuVE trust me.. it is still a higher degree of INFATUATION.