Is this love or is it Infatuation?
This being a Valentines week I am trying to stick to the theme.
But i dont have and never had anything mushy to say about when it comes to LOuVE.
The very reason I am mentioning "love" AS "LOuVE" shows my lack of seriousness towards the underrated or for that matter over rated word.
Probably because I am too practical or too rational to the extent of being cynical when it comes to love.
So I am writing this basically to clear the misconception of most of you out there who think that
Love, Infatuation and Attraction are 3 different things.
One of these always gives birth to another.
I mean I have heard people falling in "love at first sight" and actually completing their quest for true love and on the other hand I have seen people taking their time to know each other and that time runs into years and years of unconditional commitment only to finally realize that it was just an INFATUATION. Ironic.
Why is there a confusion between these two highly over used and misinterpreted words?
I think everything starts with an infatuation.
Infatuation basically means "temporary" love of adolescent a foolish and usually extravagant passion love or admiration.
But that is what love is all about right? Foolish,immature
Many temporary infatuations make one long lasting love.
The very reason that draws you to a person makes you call, text, think, imagine, fantasize is because you are attracted to him or her due to some kind of infatuation.
You may be infatuated by looks, money, personality, kindness, humour.
So if you are not sure whether what you have between you and your partner is infatuation or love you will be wondering all your life.
And the only way you will come to know about it is if you eventually end up with him/her for the rest of your life and then you can tell the world with a sense of pride " oh! well it was unconditional pure love from the very start"
and god forbid if you break up tomorrow you will tell yourself " oh! well it was nothing but infatuation"
So if its infatuation there is nothing wrong it is meant to be like that.
And if its LOuVE trust me.. it is still a higher degree of INFATUATION.
14 comments:
Really great. It'll be really useful to the newbies. Great work! ;)
newbies..lol..delighted tht i m getting a chance to comment below the pro...
but back to the topic..
i've known u for a while
this is ur definite opinion
thts all
u believe tht to the T
i cant argue
n i dont wanna change tht u knw
coz i knw darling u'll feel it one day..cud be after u get married ..but it will happen...n it will be special..tab yaad karega.. :)
but u ryte really well.. keep on writing man..me likes such posts...
hey come on i agree with prateek ...!!
love i believe was a wrod invented by our ancestors to get into bed with women of thier time ...
...i know this totally a different opinion then what prateek said ...
but i agree with him too ,,
ifatuation love n crush all r one thing ,,,,
i knw fosho..dawg..after this comment aman..any gal readin this..is not gettin in anything even close to a bed wid u..lol
yeah right like as if without reading this they wer goin to ....!!!
ur confidence is sky high bro..
chal toh fir khush reh..kam se kam u'll get popular in guys..lol
Hmm .. Interesting. Let's talk about this at your Bachelor's Party.:)
A good one !! BUT....I am sure that the most under rated or over rated word "LOuVE", will also be knocking on the door of your hearts sooner or later; as you urself said that one leads to another, and I am sure that you are already a victim of either "Infatuation and Attraction" !!
My defination of infatuation : the period where couples to lot of junk food joints and get fat
attraction : a rich/going-to-be-rich guy or a hot gal
love: when both abv defn no longer hold true...
haha...nice one maalu...i agree that one leads to the other...and that each is an easy excuse for the other's failure.......
but still..however much u may try to merge the three, it's important to have a distinction..because the degrees vary vastly...
anyways...well written :-)
interesting work on the post..
I so wanna defend love here...over infatuation...but I guess u have to be in love to know it...
Just as you need to get into the rain to know what's being wet...
Huh??????????
What am I saying here?:-(
Nice post...
I am still deciding how much to agree with u;-)
Love is not a highre degree of infatuation.
it's just love :|
a balanced n analytical no-nonsense approach!! me likes:D:D
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