Guilty as Charged.

THE SECRET says that you can categorize your feelings into two: Good and Bad.

Good feelings consist of happiness, excitement, love, forgiveness, passion, sympathy.

Bad feelings consist of fear, envy, frustration, anger, jealousy, irritation and so on.

Amidst all these emotions we always forget one very important aspect of our emotional build up that is GUILT. Probably because you don’t know what it makes you feel.

It makes you feel good when you get rid of it and makes you feel bad when you can get rid off your guilt.

This G – factor is directly related to your conscience I guess that is how the term guilty conscience or guilty conscious was coined.

Why is guilt that important an emotion or feeling to discuss?

Because when it comes to guilt everything else fails..

Guilt pierces your heart and pricks your conscience.

Guilt tests your confidence if you can come with the truth.

It shows how big a coward you are to hide the truth.

Guilt questions your self-respect.

Guilt defines your character.

Guilt gives you the strength to face the reality.

At the same time it breaks you completely when the reality is too harsh to be faced.

Guilt makes you think and rethink and forces you to forget whatever that is you are thinking.

It forces you to look into the mirror and see more than just the 3 dimensional appearance.

You know it is guilt when you can lie easily to others but fail to lie to yourself.

Guilt hurts your ego as it makes you realize that you are WRONG.

It also gives you sleepless nights.

Guilt changes you as a person as Akshay says “ It is when you fake a smile but its only you who knows what lies beneath that ***kin smile”

Guilt is when you have convinced others but didn’t convince yourself.Guilt arrives when you know that you want to say "yes" to something and you end up saying no and vice versa.

And there is a thin line between guilt and regret . One begets the other.

It hurts the most when its because you’ve betrayed your best friend or when you’ve ditched your partner or when you have lied to your parents.

Keeping everything aside all this can be overcome by just three magical words which may sound repetitive or fake but works wonder when you say it straight from the heart.

They are “I am sorry”.

I am sorry doesn't mean that you are wrong and the other person is write it means that you just value the relationship more than each other’s ego .

My parents used to tell me “Nobody becomes smaller by saying sorry but by not saying it you do give a boost to your ego to become bigger and bigger”.

So next time to release the burden of guilt of your shoulders never think twice before saying the three magical words “I am sorry”.

Forgive and Forget should be the way to live.

Tell Me Something About Yourself !

Throughout the 4 years of my engineering I've been waiting for this day.

When i'll be sitting all dressed in formals, hair neatly combed, going through my resume and waiting for my turn when someone will call ”Prateek Malpani you are next."

That day finally arrived. I entered with a confident smile hiding my nervousness. Half my nervousness and anxiety disappeared when the interviewer at least 4 decades older than me stood up from his seat and greeted me. He looked excited for the 15 minute talk that was going to happen between us. The look on his face was calm and peaceful. After scanning my RESUME for few minutes finally the most awaited question arrived...

"Hmm ok, so tell me something about yourself?" I have been asked this question a decent number of times before but every time there was someone cute sitting opposite me asking this question.

Although I was expecting this question I was still was feeling at a loss of words when it was finally asked. Give it a thought, you can speak volumes on your friends, your crush, and your family but when it comes to telling something about yourself you become tongue-tied.

This question followed a horde of other questions.

“What are your future plans?”

“What are your interests?”

“Why this and Why not that?”

And on…

I read somewhere that always look into the eye of the interviewer and answer the question, it shows confidence but I was doing it with so much commitment that I thought I might scare him.

Finally he gave me an opportunity to ask something if I wanted to and I came up with

“Thank You Sir.”

The first ever interview of my life was smooth sailing and I can say a cake walk.

Many more to come I guess so I better figure out something to say about MYSELF.

3 I.D.I.O.T.S - Much Needed Sunshine..

Hey, I am back and to do what i do best write about movies. I am not going to crib and whine about why i was out of blogosphere for so long because i learnt how to put my hand on my heart and say "Aaall izz Well" in the toughest of the situation.

I've always seen movies with an intent to learn something from it. To relate myself and try and fit in myself in the scenes of movie.

3 I.D.I.O.T.S is one movie in which i could put myself from the very second it started.

The movie is mind blowing that writing a review will be insulting it.It is always said that a bestseller book or for that matter any book when made into a movie will never do justice to it. But 3 I.D.I.O.T.S does more than just justice.

I wont be surprised if people would want to run to the book stores and buy the original masterpiece FIVE POINT SOMEONE itself. In fact i would be more surprised to know about people who havent already read the book.3 I.D.I.O.T.S is not actually a page by page adaption of 5 point someone. The body is different but the soul is the same.

It captures the moments that come in engineering life which will make engineers weep like a baby just how I was (no matter how tough a guy you are its very difficult to control that drop of tear when you see your life on big screen).I would plead AAMIR KHAN to hold a special screening of this movie to MUMBAI UNIVERSITY they desperately need to watch it or at least my college professors.

This movie is not a "laugh your ass out" movie.. nor it is a "cry your heart out" movie.. but it is what you call a more cliched term used more often called as "feel good wholesome entertainer".For some 170 odd minutes you just sit back, relax and enjoy the rollercoaster ride.I call it a roller coaster because there is not one fraction of a second in the movie where you feel its getting monotonous and neither is there a single frame where you feel that its not required in the movie.

You rope in the father of feel good cinema Raju Hirani and then get yourself 3 class actors, adapt an outstanding and popular book you have hit the bull's eye.

Aamir Khan , just when i thought Lagaan is his best work, he came up with Rang De Basanti and when i thought RDB was the best bollywood movie ever made he comes up with TAARE ZAMEEN PAR.. and when i though TZP is the movie that has touched my heart the most he comes up with 3 I.D.I.O.T.S. Hats off man!.. kudos!..

Sharman Joshi matches up and has proved himself time and again that he is also a big fish in Bollywood.

Madhavan and Boman Irani play their parts flawlessly. Even though the innumerable times that Boman Irani has played a control freak insane professor each time it fresh and different.

Kareena Kapoor is beautiful and gets noticed

in the movie dominated by 3 I.D.I.O.T.S

Let me give a special mention to the music director and lyricist. Shantanu Moitra's music is soothing and songs go with the flow of the movie in fact they help taking the movie forward.

Give a good nice ear to "Give Me Some Sunshine" beautiful, beautiful song.

All in All.. All izz Well .. i would say.. and leave you with the only one line in my head..

"Give me Some Sunshine,

Give me some Rain..

Give me another chance..

I wanna grow up once Again"

RATINGS : 6/5 (yes 6 on 5 :p )

2 States - The Story Of My Marriage

Disclaimer : This is not a book review

Let me start by saying that Chetan Bhagat is the person behind me reading books in the first place. If it wasnt for his books i would have remained a non-reader all my life.

Chetan Bhagat the youth writer image that he has got has tried something different yet so similar this time. He decided to go one notch ahead and write a book on one of the most important and after reading the book adventurous event of his life.

I dont know the degree of adventure in the actual sense because he's mentioned to consider this book as a part of fiction.

The book that I am talking about is 2- States.

Its a book on love cum "please arrange" marriage in general in India , how it was a decade ago. Things have changed now obviously. Most importantly it has 2 states playing a very important part in the book,

Tamil Nadu and Punjab. Different like chalk and cheese isnt it?

If i tell you what the book is about it will sound very cliched but i wont be surprised if some tom dick or harry would want to make a movie on this book too cos it is surely entertaining.

Now the problematic part with Chetan Bhagat is that he raised his standards so high with the classic FIVE POINT SOMEONE that everyone expects him to churn out something like that everytime he pens down.

'5 point someone' was rocking cant put down till i finish type book.

'1 night at the call center' was okayish ( mixed response but personally I loved the book)

'3 mistakes of my life' was a disaster ( personally i hated it too)

after 3 mistakes of my life everyone started terming him as a one book wonder. Immature writer.

I always felt that he is an amazing story teller with a great humour element but not that great a writer that is why all his books are made into movies.

But again because he became so famous after his first two books which targetted the youth of india it became like a reflex action to read chetan bhagat if its a new book on the stands.

Just like people have to go and watch a Shahrukh Khan movie no matter how bad it is.. or how bad the reviews are.

But with 2- States Chetan Bhagat will manage to win the confidence of old readers and get some new ones.

The ones who are not okay with colloquial style of writing will still keep on disliking him probably because they are too sophisticated for his books or they have too much of Jeffrey Archer or John Grisham in their minds.

Although the typical Chetan Bhagat elements are there in the book like the over use of the sentence " and we made love" and overuse of sarcasm but that somehow keeps the grip and keeps you smiling.

Do not be too judgemental and read it with an open mind only then you will not find the writing too monotonous and relate to the character and eventually end up enjoying the book.

Mission Impossible

No, I am not talking about the hit tom cruise movie that came a decade ago.

Mission Impossible is the name of a dessert in the suburban chinese restaurant FIVE SPICE.

I heard about this dessert from a lot of people but never tried it.

People told me that the dish is like too heavy and its almost impossible to finish hence the name MISSION IMPOSSIBLE.

So, me being with my colony friends took this as a challenge cos all of us here believe that we are such a superlative form hoggers that we take the art of hogging to a whole new different level.

We are gluttonous when it comes to FOOD and we are not ashamed of it. Its a matter of pride.

So we all decided to go stuff our selves with some THAI FRIED RICE and MONGOLIAN PANEER GRAVY and then ordered for MISSION IMPOSSIBLE.

Before this also there have been lot of times that we just dropped in FIVE SPICE just to have the dessert but it wasnt available anytime as if the dessert itself doesnt want to get eaten by us and contradict its name.

The dessert looked huge true to its name. But then we got ready.. cleared the table with all the mess had a good nice look at the dish, looked at each other and a determined nod to each other which said

"we can do it".

Its a triangular pyramid of chocolate mousse , brownie and 2 scoops of ice cream.

But once we started it was quite literlly a cake walk.

We had some pity on the fellow restauranters and had the dessert with the spoon or trust me we dont even need it when it comes to cakes and pastries.

We even landed up in a small spoon fight but the dish vanished in like 1 minute 30 seconds to be precise.

When we again looked at each other and my friends were like " you think we can have one more"

" I was like I can have 2 MORE if you are paying for it"

So we decided against it.

The MISSION was made POSSIBLE. The dessert was no doubt lip-smacking and we were 4 people but i bet even if we would have been any 2 of us the result would have been the same.

Its in our veins.

HOGGING PERSONIFIED.

lol.. on a serious note, go and try the dessert its awesome and worth every penny and every single CALORIE.

Wake Up Who?

Talk about having a writer's block. Actually calling myself a writer will be demeaning the actual professional meaning of the word but still. Non-happening life so not happening blog.

Finally after Kaminey I saw Wake Up Sid.

I've been hearing everything about it. Had to be, a Karan Johar movie and its not talked about cant happen.

I heard Wake up Sid is overhyped , its a mixture of Taare Zameen Par , Lakshya and Waqt.

The much hum-drum about Mumbai , Bombay , Bambai.

Big deal yaa!! It earned Mr. T some attention and Karan Johar some free publicity. As they say good or bad it works either way.

Anyway about the movie, its good. I liked it. May be because of my liking towards feel good low stress movies where you simply go get entertained and return with your Vodafone Tuesday wisely used and a smile on your face.

The story is wafer thin. Final Yr student , loves to spend pappa's money , failed in exam , doesnt want to do pappa's multi million business , leaves home after a showdown with parents , lives with a new girl he just met , finds direction to his life , falls in love, the end.

Ranbir Kapoor plays a lazy , spoilt , care-free , indifferent son, immature and a child at heart. He wears the "I dont give a F" attitude ( about life, family,career).

He's happy with his social life and enjoys waking up late , late night parties , video games , music photography and his "me" time.

Yea strikes a chord with you doesnt it. Definitely he plays your next door average mumbai guy , yea but filthy rich.

This is exactly where the film scores. We can relate to the movie big time.You know, you always feel where you are heading in your life. Is this really what you want to do and what you are meant to be. We always opt for the tried and tested part and never explore whats there inside where our heart n soul lies. I guess there is room for that only in bollywood movies.The best will be watching this movie with your parents.

I liked the movie , probably because It was a long time that I'd seen a movie or because of the gujarati chick who couldnt control on her yapping and we had a nice time shooshing her every second or probably because my friend was trying too hard to control his motions and kept on asking..

" malpani kitna time baaki hai bolna"

Climax was a typical Karan Johar ending.

Ranbir Kapoor fits the role to the" T" because of his droopy eyes the lazy worn out look is bult in feature. He acted well too showing the right emotions at right places and more importantly not overdoing or overacting such a simple easy-to play character. Although his dialogue delivery is identical to Hrithik Roshan. Looks like even he wants to compete with Her-man Baweja in "Mai Hrithik Roshan Banna Chahta hoo".

Konkana Sen Sharma is lovable. No doubt about her acting skills. Her eyes are pretty. Although you dont expect her to be a glam quotient in any movie. But she plays the part well.

Anupam Kher as the disappointed dad is first rate. Specially the scene where he and ranbir kapoor have a fight is to watch out for. A perfect dad-son argument how its meant to be.

Shankar Ehsan Loy could've done better with the music.

Wake up Sid - Music video remix

Kya Karoo and Iktara.. are the songs to give an ear to.

Iktara is less publicised but an amazing song.

All in all , Go for it.. thumbs up!..and do take your parents along with you. If you can!

RATINGS: 3.5/5

Shhh... I am NOT Sleeping..

Sleep is one thing that i am having a lot of trouble with off lately.

I never get good sleep.

I go green with envy when my friends say that they slept for this many hours and I always wonder how do you guys manage.

I can never say proudly that i get deep sleep.

Actually I got this from my mom cos even she has a lot of trouble sleeping.

Going back a few years from now I used to hate sleeping in my school days.

I always used to feel what if our body wasnt meant to sleep we would have saved so many hours that we waste just lying like a dead body.

I secretly used to wish that i suffer from insomnia so that i get extra time to study in the night. I was a geek then.

Back then i dint know the consequences of becoming an insomniac.

And guess what GOD is actually giving me what i wished for in my schooling days now in my engineering years when i desperately need some good deep sleep.

I dont remember the last time I slept like a baby.

Even the slightest noise wakes me up.

No matter how exhausted I am with the entire day's running and my exciting lectures I still cant sleep instantly.

The Chinese Proverb actually holds true " only when one cannot sleep does one know how loooong the night is."

Its frustrating tossing and turning and changing sides and pillows , switchin the AC on and off.

And I am not in love. lol..

It atleast takes me half n hour to get sleep after i lie down.

I'll read some , then i listen to some music, drink water, take a leak that many times..and finally I get sleep and just when I am fast asleep its my alarm going beep and its already 7?

And I am like wtf i slept like half n hour ago.

Morning is the time i get the most amazing sleep and I just dun wana get up but college.

I know this isnt insomnia I guess I am just turning into a nocturnal animal but still I am missing my dreams that I get when I am fast asleep. :p

I hope it comes back to me again.

Sleep is the best thing God ever made.

Good Night..!!

Freedom to me?

So, 15th august 2009 we celebrate our 62nd year of "independence."

What does independence mean?

not influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion, conduct, etc.; thinking or acting for oneself: an independent thinker

India got its independence long back. But are we really independent?

Ok fine I know India is a great country. India has diversity and it has variety and it has blah blah blah..

But how has it progressed as a country.

The other day I was discussing how India can never improve.

Ok you are not supposed to brand me as a cynic but its the truth.

What freedom are we talking about?

Freedom from corruption

Freedom from unemployment and recession

Freedom from not having a college even after scoring 95%

Freedom from reservation quotas

Freedom from trying to prove if AJMAL KASAB is a pakistani

Freedom from bombs going off like its diwali

Freedom from insane traffic

Freedom from jam-packed local trains

Freedom from farmers giving up hope

Freedom from the oh-so promising politicians

Freedom from everything that runs this :" money"

I know I am not doing anything myself for the country but I am atleast not doing anything wrong to harm it.

People are dying of breathing these days because of the swine flu.

Instead of providing masks at low cost , we start selling them at 5 times its actual worth.

I've heard this somewhere

"gandhiji apni poori zindagi ahinsa ka paath padhate padhate chale jayege.. aur unke jaane ke baad hamne kya kiya?.. unka photo ahinsa ke sabse bade dushman ke upar chhap diya--- 'paisa' "

India is no doubt a lovely country and even the other countries of the world who consider it as a threat in upcoming years cos sure it is on its way of becoming a super power but still we can bridge that gap of years by working towards making it one.

I know we are lot better than our neighbours and many other countries but mediocrity is not what you want in a country that u live.

So without getting emotional and thinking practically we have too see where we stand and what we are and then chant about the INDEPENDENCE.

Love Aaj Kal Parso Tarso..

I know its very late for a movie review,but i just cudnt get time to write about it and I'll keep it short. I was damn excited about this movie reasons being plenty from deepika padukone to the songs and imtiaz ali the director.

I went for the movie a week later after it released and I was getting mixed responses.

Some would come and say its amazing, some say its mediocre and some say its bakwaas.

I liked it.

The best part about Imtiaz Ali movies is the story he directs are so cliched but still there's a different and fresh feel to it.

Love Aaj Kal is a proper amalgamation of two perspectives of how people used to look at LOVE in 1950's and how its taken to be now.

The movie is worth a watch and dont compare it with JAB WE MET that was class apart.

You cant get a LAGAAN or DDLJ every second friday.

I give LOVE AAJ KAL its credit.

The movie has two different stories at the same time and how they are so similar yet so different.

Saif Ali Khan overacted himself in the suave town boy but played his part well as the sardar but kudos to the marketing brain he chose the perfect timing to get into the production world cashing on the JAB WE MET success.

Deepika Padukone sizzles.

Brazilian chick is pretty.

Rishi Kapoor is ok.

You start liking the songs slowly not at one go.

Ahun Ahun is foot tapping and please wait for the video after the movie its in fact the best part

Ye Dooriya is also a lovely song Mohit Chauhan is on a song these days quite literally.

Overall , go for it. Don't see JAB WE MET in LOVE AAJ KAL and you will like it.

RATINGS: 3/5